If you are finding yourself shouting and screaming and still feel like no one is listening you need to simply stop raising your voice!

Sounds simple and it can be. First you need to realize that what you’re currently doing isn’t working and ask yourself why then keep doing it?

People raise their voice usually because they’re mad, venting their frustrations (usually over something insignificant and not the real reason for their upset) or feel like nobody is ever listening to them.

But realise that others often start to switch off when others start shouting because often it’s just the same old stuff to them and they don’t want to hear it or be part of it.

When people shout the message they want to say is lost since only noise is emitted which makes the person being yelled at switch off. Imposing your opinion through shouting will automatically make the other person on the defensive. It’s a no win situation and it all breeds resentment.

If it’s your partner who is constantly yelling simply ask them in a calm voice why they are shouting? Speak calmly back and give them a chance to calm down too. Shouting back is only adding fuel to the fire. If they don’t stop shouting then take control and let them know that once they have calmed down and ready to talk then you will be ready to listen otherwise you don’t want to keep having such unhealthy repetitive fighting with the person you love.

For more information
Contact : Jacqueline Pigdon
Tel No   : +61 (0) 404 362 379
Email    : jacqueline@jinalife.com

Tags: Coaching, Executive, Fighting, Life, personal, Relationship, Shouting, Yelling

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