If you are finding yourself shouting and screaming and still feel like no one is listening you need to simply stop raising your voice!

Sounds simple and it can be. First you need to realize that what you’re currently doing isn’t working and ask yourself why then keep doing it?

People raise their voice usually because they’re mad, venting their frustrations (usually over something insignificant and not the real reason for their upset) or feel like nobody is ever listening to them.

But realise that others often start to switch off when others start shouting because often it’s just the same old stuff to them and they don’t want to hear it or be part of it.

When people shout the message they want to say is lost since only noise is emitted which makes the person being yelled at switch off. Imposing your opinion through shouting will automatically make the other person on the defensive. It’s a no win situation and it all breeds resentment.

If it’s your partner who is constantly yelling simply ask them in a calm voice why they are shouting? Speak calmly back and give them a chance to calm down too. Shouting back is only adding fuel to the fire. If they don’t stop shouting then take control and let them know that once they have calmed down and ready to talk then you will be ready to listen otherwise you don’t want to keep having such unhealthy repetitive fighting with the person you love.

For more information
Contact : Jacqueline Pigdon
Tel No   : +61 (0) 404 362 379
Email    : jacqueline@jinalife.com

Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to do everything together and you don’t have to love everything your partner loves.

It’s important to be appreciative and supportive of each others needs and interests but there will be times when you like to do things separately. This doesn’t have to mean that you love each other any less.

Make sure your time spent together and your own interests, hobbies and ambitions are in balance. Set them at the same time also. So when one is off playing sport the other is off doing their individual thing. Ensure you and your partner feel loved and supported even when you’re away from each other pursuing different things.

Often a little time apart can make the heart grow stronger but make sure you find time to do the things you both love together so as you stay in balance.

If you are feeling like your relationship is out of balance, stop and reflect and ask yourself do you need to make more time to be together or to give your partner some space or have a little break and alone time yourself?

Relationships need love, care and nurturing so make sure you are sowing good seeds into your relationship each and every day so it prospers.

For more information
Contact : Jacqueline Pigdon
Tel No   : +61 (0) 404 362 379
Email    : jacqueline@jinalife.com

Do’s

1. Give regular positive feedback to each other
2. Communicate by making specific time to talk to each other and to LISTEN
3. Give unconditional love
4. Follow through on what you say you’re going to do and be trustworthy
5. Be spontaneous to keep the passion spark alive in your relationship

Don’ts

6. Don’t neglect your relationship
7. Don’t put your partner down or criticize them
8. Don’t blame your partner for everything that is and goes wrong
9. Don’t yell and scream to try and be heard
10. Don’t be overly possessive or controlling

For more information
Contact : Jacqueline Pigdon
Tel No   : +61 (0) 404 362 379
Email    : jacqueline@jinalife.com