WITHIN YOU!!

If you feel frustrated with someone else, annoyed at the situation with them, feel resentment or dislike to another person… and you don’t want to feel like this anymore then… LOOK WITHIN.

Your unhappiness is never truly about the other person. Your answer does not lie in them. As much as you think it does, it doesn’t. The more you think it does the longer your frustration will exist.

Here is my Step By Step strategy for overcoming your life frustrations and finding your answers:

1. Decide to take responsibility for your situation and your feelings
2. Ask yourself ’so if it’s not them how can it be me?’
3. What am I really unhappy about?
4. What have I done, said or not done that may have caused this situation or feeling inside of me?
5. Accept your part
6. Now knowing this ask yourself ‘what am I going to do about it to make the situation and myself feel better?’
7. Run this strategy by a trusted friend, advisor or your life coach and then take the required action.

Examples of using this strategy

Frustrations with your boss!

1. I am now taking responsibility for my situation and my feelings towards my manager at work

2. It could be me because I know that I don’t say what I really want to say when she is asking me a question

3. I’m really unhappy with myself because I fail to contribute some great ideas, share different perspectives and/or simply answer the question

4. What I have therefore really done is let myself down

5. I accept this is the real reason I am so frustrated with my manager

6. To change this situation I am in, next time my manager asks me a question I will answer with what I really want to say

7. Ensure what you really want to say is right for your situation, don’t fear otherwise you will run right into your fear and remain respectful towards yourself and your manager when having your say.

Frustrations with your partner!

1. I am now taking responsibility for my current situation and my feelings towards my husband

2. It could be me because I know I haven’t made the time to spend quality time with him

3. I’m really unhappy with myself because I can’t seem to organise my life to make the time

4. What I have therefore really done is say yes to everyone else when really I should be saying yes to time with my husband. This is not putting my relationship as priority in my life.

5. I accept this is the real reason I am so frustrated with my husband

6. To change this situation I am in, I will say no more often to other less important commitments and make the time happen with my husband.

7. Remember sometimes people will yes to everyone else so as they don’t look bad in social circles and put their partners last thinking they will always love you. Also people can fill up their lives with ‘other stuff’ to avoid addressing the real hard issue of their relationship not being nearly as good as they would like it to be. The more you avoid your problem the bigger the problem will become. So there is no time like the present to address your real frustrations from within and feel the weight of your problems lift.

Live Your Best Life!

For more information
Contact : Jacqueline Pigdon
Tel No : +61 (0) 404 362 379
Email : jacqueline@jinalife.com

Life does change and thus people need to change accordingly.

People at different stages of life make different choices.

These decisions then take people down a different path.

The key is for the journey to end at the same goal and thus no matter what path you choose you end up in the same place.

Thus you cannot lose focus in turbulent times.

Live Your Best Life!

For more information
Contact : Jacqueline Pigdon
Tel No : +61 (0) 404 362 379
Email : jacqueline@jinalife.com

Many people feel like they are not being heard and others don’t listen to them. Perhaps it’s your children, spouse, colleagues or your boss.

Here are 10 TIPS to help get people listening to you when you speak:

1. Vary your tone of voice – when you are emotionally connected and passionate about what you are saying it will sound better and come across as more interesting!

2. Express more of your true self when speaking – don’t be afraid to be yourself.

3. Be aware of your volume, we all know constantly yelling to be heard DOESN’T WORK as people simply switch off thinking ‘there you go again…’

4. Listen to others first and pay your full 100% attention when they are speaking – when you show that you are an excellent listener people are much more likely to listen to you.

5. Articulate your words properly, don’t phase off into a mumble or walk away while you’re still speaking.

6. Stop and be silent if you think someone is not listening and wait until they are – speaking while someone isn’t listening is a complete waste of their and your time.

7. Quality versus quantity, a common problem for those who feel or know people are not listening to them is that they have a habit of ramble on and on – way too many words to get their point across. Remember sometimes people don’t have half an hour to wait for you to get to the point. If this is you severely cut back your word count and practice getting straight to the point and watch the results.

8. Leisurely conversations can be some of the best conversation you have – but on a day to day communication basis ask yourself – what do you want to get out of this conversation? What is the aim? Do you want to share information sharing, gain an understanding, resolving an issue, come to an agreement on something? When you know what your outcome is you can direct yourself straight towards it.

9. Stop repeating yourself – say what you have to say once. Then if someone complains that they didn’t know or you didn’t tell them you simply say ‘Yes I told you on this day at this time while we were doing this – not my fault if you weren’t listening.’ 

10. Remember we have two ears and one mouth for a reason – we need to listen twice as much as we speak!

When you’re not being heard it can damage your self confidence and self worth so follow these tips and if you don’t have this problem make sure you listen to others so they always feel heard.

For more information
Contact : Jacqueline Pigdon
Tel No   : +61 (0) 404 362 379
Email    : jacqueline@jinalife.com