How To Talk So Others Listen…
Many people feel like they are not being heard and others don’t listen to them. Perhaps it’s your children, spouse, colleagues or your boss.
Here are 10 TIPS to help get people listening to you when you speak:
1. Vary your tone of voice – when you are emotionally connected and passionate about what you are saying it will sound better and come across as more interesting!
2. Express more of your true self when speaking – don’t be afraid to be yourself.
3. Be aware of your volume, we all know constantly yelling to be heard DOESN’T WORK as people simply switch off thinking ‘there you go again…’
4. Listen to others first and pay your full 100% attention when they are speaking – when you show that you are an excellent listener people are much more likely to listen to you.
5. Articulate your words properly, don’t phase off into a mumble or walk away while you’re still speaking.
6. Stop and be silent if you think someone is not listening and wait until they are – speaking while someone isn’t listening is a complete waste of their and your time.
7. Quality versus quantity, a common problem for those who feel or know people are not listening to them is that they have a habit of ramble on and on – way too many words to get their point across. Remember sometimes people don’t have half an hour to wait for you to get to the point. If this is you severely cut back your word count and practice getting straight to the point and watch the results.
8. Leisurely conversations can be some of the best conversation you have – but on a day to day communication basis ask yourself – what do you want to get out of this conversation? What is the aim? Do you want to share information sharing, gain an understanding, resolving an issue, come to an agreement on something? When you know what your outcome is you can direct yourself straight towards it.
9. Stop repeating yourself – say what you have to say once. Then if someone complains that they didn’t know or you didn’t tell them you simply say ‘Yes I told you on this day at this time while we were doing this – not my fault if you weren’t listening.’
10. Remember we have two ears and one mouth for a reason – we need to listen twice as much as we speak!
When you’re not being heard it can damage your self confidence and self worth so follow these tips and if you don’t have this problem make sure you listen to others so they always feel heard.
For more information
Contact : Jacqueline Pigdon
Tel No : +61 (0) 404 362 379
Email : jacqueline@jinalife.com
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